Why there are many individuals who seem to find out something is wrong in their relationship with the person they date. Is there no way of telling who is the "one" for you? How many "dates" do you want to go through so you can find the "one"?
I have read many people's cases on "BGR turned sour" and most of them seem to think they are the "wrong" people they dated. They think they will never find the "correct" one or Mr/Miss Right. BUT how can you be sure who is your Mr/Miss Right?
There is no definate solution nor is there any fool proof plan of going about it. You learn through life itself and in your life you will go through a roller coaster ride with regards to finding your Mr/Miss Right.
Of course how many hearts are you willing to break OR how many times you want your heart to shatter to get there? If you already knew WHO IS your ideal mate, are you willing to resist temporary feelings and emotions in search of that ideal mate of yours? OR will you give in and just get one and enjoy the time together without really seriously considering are you two going for life?
Through the "wrong" people, you learn more about yourself and your traits and flaws. Slowly you will filter out many things and narrowing your search, finding the ideal person will be more clearer than ever before.
Nowadays we see many people get together in relationships in the heat of moment or passion. Very few rarely consider the consequences in relationships and the commitments involved. Its starting to get "stereotypical" that getting into a relationship between a guy and a girl ( in some cases guy and guy or girl and girl) is normal or hip and is in a way considered "experienced" or some other words.
There is NOTHING wrong in getting into a relationship. Just keep in mind what is it you looking for... OR RATHER what is it you can give to the other party and do know that you love him/her and that is why you give more than you receive. Then slowly you will know who is your Mr/Miss Right... Or left?
Friday, December 29, 2006
Friends
To make an aquaintance is so easy. To be a friend takes more time and effort. To be a TRUE friend, you have to know the person's basic personality or core foundation of what makes a person's character.
There are times when you want to hold that person so much, yet its only a moment of passion that makes you do so. There are times when you really want to go up to to that special someone and say, "I have feelings for you." But the two of you may not be prepared for it.
When you like someone, do you go up to that person and say, "Oei, pak tor ai mai?". Or do you wait and get to know that person more and see for yourself what that person is like and whether that person is suitable for you or not? When you finally get to know someone, only then it is too late to realise you could have made the wrong move in the first place.
Time and again, you will keep wondering what makes you so attracted to that person. Many of you may say, "Is there a reason to love?". True, not all the times we can find a reason for that, but have you actually thought what that person has that makes you so "head and heels" over that person? Could it be that person has a funny personality? Or does that person has a nice heart and caring towards others that makes your heart warm as well? Perhaps even that person has a direct, or blunt, approach to life that you wish you too could have that approach. Think about what makes you so attracted to this person.
There are cases when the time spent with a person is nothing compared to the QUALITY time spent with another person. I known a friend for many years, but due to a misunderstanding started indirectly by me, he said, "Can dun be frens wif me de...". I was shocked and heartbroken by HOW a person can say even the nastiest things in a fit of the moment. There are people I have known for a short time but we feel like close kins and even share many intimate things.
I do have regrets in life, but I can look at those regrets and smile, knowing I have learnt something from it and reinforcing me in a sense that the next time I make a decision, I will make sure I choose the one I want and have no regrets whatsoever.
You choose the type of company you want, you decide whether is it worth keeping going into it or ending it. No one can seduce your decision otherwise and no matter how good other people's words are to you, in the end you make the choice because it is your life.
There are times when you want to hold that person so much, yet its only a moment of passion that makes you do so. There are times when you really want to go up to to that special someone and say, "I have feelings for you." But the two of you may not be prepared for it.
When you like someone, do you go up to that person and say, "Oei, pak tor ai mai?". Or do you wait and get to know that person more and see for yourself what that person is like and whether that person is suitable for you or not? When you finally get to know someone, only then it is too late to realise you could have made the wrong move in the first place.
Time and again, you will keep wondering what makes you so attracted to that person. Many of you may say, "Is there a reason to love?". True, not all the times we can find a reason for that, but have you actually thought what that person has that makes you so "head and heels" over that person? Could it be that person has a funny personality? Or does that person has a nice heart and caring towards others that makes your heart warm as well? Perhaps even that person has a direct, or blunt, approach to life that you wish you too could have that approach. Think about what makes you so attracted to this person.
There are cases when the time spent with a person is nothing compared to the QUALITY time spent with another person. I known a friend for many years, but due to a misunderstanding started indirectly by me, he said, "Can dun be frens wif me de...". I was shocked and heartbroken by HOW a person can say even the nastiest things in a fit of the moment. There are people I have known for a short time but we feel like close kins and even share many intimate things.
I do have regrets in life, but I can look at those regrets and smile, knowing I have learnt something from it and reinforcing me in a sense that the next time I make a decision, I will make sure I choose the one I want and have no regrets whatsoever.
You choose the type of company you want, you decide whether is it worth keeping going into it or ending it. No one can seduce your decision otherwise and no matter how good other people's words are to you, in the end you make the choice because it is your life.
Something to share...
I have gave a present to my younger brother some time ago on his birthday. He was very surprised and very happy because I have never gave him any in the past. This is the first one and the first of many to come.
When I looked at him wearing a big smile upon receiving the music CD from me, I felt a warmth in my heart.
This is a joy and I want to share this joy with all of you reading this.
When was the last time you gave a gift to someone? How did you felt that time when you saw the smile on that person's face upon receiving it from you? Have you failed to give a gift to someone? Have you ever thought of not giving to someone whom you deemed not worthy to receive?
A gift to someone may not be something you buy. It can be spending quality time, giving a hug, a pat on the back, listening to them, having a simple chat. Whatever it is, its you being there with them that matters the most. You may not notice but people appreciate when we take time to look for them and be there.
Have you kissed your mum? Hug your dad? Pat your brother or boy friends? Hold hands with your sister or girl friends? Its simple and small, even embarrassing to a certain point, but they can feel the love coming from you. They will smile back, you can feel the warmth in you and them. Don't you want some love? Find them! Talk to them! Keep them company! Its not some mammoth task, but it can certainly make your day.
Being in quarrels? Fell out with someone? Ignored a person or being ignored? Get rid of all those! Call them! Sms them! Msn them! Take the first step, apologise on your part and they will reciprocate. Even if they do not respond, at least you tried. There will be another time to do it again.
Am I being too optimistic? Yes I think so, but don't you think the human world is too realistic and too sad? We need a little optimism from each and everyone of us to make our day or someone's day. There is no harm in being optimistic or happy. Infact everybody will be delighted if you can show that all around.
Go on, do it!
When I looked at him wearing a big smile upon receiving the music CD from me, I felt a warmth in my heart.
This is a joy and I want to share this joy with all of you reading this.
When was the last time you gave a gift to someone? How did you felt that time when you saw the smile on that person's face upon receiving it from you? Have you failed to give a gift to someone? Have you ever thought of not giving to someone whom you deemed not worthy to receive?
A gift to someone may not be something you buy. It can be spending quality time, giving a hug, a pat on the back, listening to them, having a simple chat. Whatever it is, its you being there with them that matters the most. You may not notice but people appreciate when we take time to look for them and be there.
Have you kissed your mum? Hug your dad? Pat your brother or boy friends? Hold hands with your sister or girl friends? Its simple and small, even embarrassing to a certain point, but they can feel the love coming from you. They will smile back, you can feel the warmth in you and them. Don't you want some love? Find them! Talk to them! Keep them company! Its not some mammoth task, but it can certainly make your day.
Being in quarrels? Fell out with someone? Ignored a person or being ignored? Get rid of all those! Call them! Sms them! Msn them! Take the first step, apologise on your part and they will reciprocate. Even if they do not respond, at least you tried. There will be another time to do it again.
Am I being too optimistic? Yes I think so, but don't you think the human world is too realistic and too sad? We need a little optimism from each and everyone of us to make our day or someone's day. There is no harm in being optimistic or happy. Infact everybody will be delighted if you can show that all around.
Go on, do it!
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